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There are life coaches out there that would take your money if you have depression but please read this first!


I have often had enquiries about life coaching from people that have experienced episodepression and life coaching free yourself from rigid thinking imagedes of depression. You may well see from the tone of my writing that I am very passionate about my own opinion (my own opinion is only my own thoughts and are mine only – disclaimer)



Why am I passionate? To give you some context depression can be overcome, beaten and cured, yes you heard me right there! Depression is not a life sentence, it’s not a disease and it’s not something you are born with. I want the best for every person that reads this or contacts me and I will give them my honest opinion and why I am passionate about people being advised well and helped by the right people.


I am a caring person and want to make sure I don’t come across as an arse hole that is overbearing and the world’s authority because I am not. I want the best for every person that reads this or contacts me and I will give them my opinion and why I am passionate about people being served safely and powerfully.


Depression is something that needs careful and skilful therapists who work with and practice Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and mindfulness – note: this is not a complete list of treatments but I would say CBT is a must coupled with mindfulness.


These therapists help people understand the ins and outs of the disorder and how it can be worked with, overcome and cured. I know I am intentionally hitting my point home here but people need to be helped to reorder their thinking and relearn thinking styles that help them balance, view the world from differing positions and create thinking styles that are not rigid. And this can be done believe me.


How much and how many sessions of therapy?

You should be looking at circa £50 per session and expect to work with the therapist for a minimum of 12 sessions to get things back on an even keel. (this is just a suggested minimum of sessions and investment)

Please contact Colin Mitchell at the Glasgow Cognitive Therapy Centre for that who I wholeheartedly trust and refer you to and please call him on 0141 332 0229 or email him HERE  Please tell them you have contacted them through me and been referred by me.


Then the future could be yours to move right into with a life coach like me. So please see, feel and hear this as a gift from me to you and don’t waste a single penny on life coaching if you feel there is work to be done to resolve any depression.


So back to life coaching

Life coaching may be appropriate AFTER a person has worked with a therapist that is skilled in depression and helped the person adapt to using day to day recovery and coping plans and skills. But not before therapy!

A person has to be in a good place to be coached and able to have the ability to create the future from many points of view and thinking styles. If these thinking styles are not in place you are throwing your money away with a coach and might as well flush it down the toilet as far as I am concerned.


If you have resolved depression and want to build a future that is based on what you want rather than what you don’t want the time could be right.


depression and life coaching image look to the future photoFrom me to you and don’t waste a single penny on life coaching if you feel there is work to be done on depression still.


I would be happy to help you with life coaching but please think about your own self in the safest possible way firstly.

Please contact me HERE to discuss coaching now or just call me on 07894900244.


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Starting your own journey of change

Change – Creating That By Yourself

I have spotted something really useful by people who have worked with me successfully that I want to share with you. It has made me wonder if people even realise that this is a big part of change and that they would just benefit by understanding what I have seen.

Are you interested yet to know about it and what I have seen and experienced for myself?


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Well for me the people that can take the first step them self of getting in touch with me via text, email, facebook or any other electronic format have started their own change process is the first thing I have seen that works straight away.


People that take the initiative have consciously or even unconsciously started their own process of change from that instant they get in touch with me because it’s a crucial step.


Then people take the next step of having a free consultation by phone or face to face with me. This for me is really useful so they can just feel heard and I can understand what they want to change. It’s really important you are heard and listened to deeply and actively so you know you have been heard and understood in the aspect of what you want.


This builds trust before we even meet and helps you to know that I am the right person to help you to get to where you want to get to. Then they go ahead themself and make a booking and pay for it before they come here which is a further commitment to what they want and change.


So when we meet face to face to create change and start that journey you have already started it because you initiated the beginning. This may sound very simple and maybe too simple but trust me the people that take the time and effort to make sure they have done the above get far better results just by doing these steps:


  1. Make  contact with me (Contact me here Now)
  2. Book a free consultation (Reserve one here Now)
  3. Book and pay for a session upfront and in advance


I really felt this was important to write about and give credit to people by bringing it to their awareness. It is my mission to help people see that they are far more powerful than their problems. Working together is important to create change and yet you can do those things easily when you decide what you want.


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Hypnosis and life coaching how does that one work then?

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Before we start it’s probably best that I dispel some old fashioned rumours and confirm some truths too about hypnosis and life coaching.


What is absolute rubbish when people talk about hypnosis?

  • It’s not a thing where you would things that would go against your morals or anything you would do in real life.
  • It’s not mind control where someone else puts you under their power and manipulates you at all.
  • You cannot get stuck in a trance. Could you get stuck reading a book? No you couldn’t and neither can you in a trance.
  • Hypnotists don’t swing watches in front of you to get you in a trance. That’s a thing of movies.


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  • Hypnosis is relaxing and helps you become so relaxed that critical and negative thinking is bypassed whilst you are in a trance.
  • Hypnosis gets you to stop thinking about what you don’t want and puts your attention onto what you do want.
  • Hypnosis helps you think in different ways you normally wouldn’t so is very supportive of focussing on solutions and resources


Why life coaching with hypnosis then?

This is how our brains work and how they process information in conscious thought using our short term memory – we can only handle or process 7 + or – 2 pieces of conscious things at a time. This is according to up to date neuroscience research and studies.


Just to make that more real for you –

  1. Think about what you can look at now
  2. What you can hear right now
  3. What you can feel physically
  4. What your emotions are now
  5. Your opinion from memory in this moment
  6. Your taste in your mouth
  7. The smell around you

This is what your brain can cope with in the present moment in short term memory.


But the subconscious mind processes between 2 and 20 million pieces of information or data in the background. We are talking about blood pressure, your pulse, stomach digestion, skin shedding, and your dreams at night, stored memories and eye blinking to mention some.


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Our memory is like a store of our resources, skills and abilities and they have always been there stored away and available but sometimes out of our conscious touch or reach. Or so we thought!!


So an alternative to having an intellectual conversation with a coach can be using hypnosis. Trance work can help to re-engage with your resources and make them available to your conscious mind by bringing them back into your awareness again.


So if you think of resources like tools we are able to dust them off, pick them up and put them into action again. So for problem-solving or improvement hypnosis can be great for inspiration and creating a new direction.


So the last thing before coming out of trance the hypnotist may ask is something like “what are your new opportunities you found? And when you are ready to bring them forward come out of trance Now!”


I often find having a notebook for the person to write down these new insights is a great way to capture them straight away.


So if you want to be helped to get out of your own way perhaps it’s time to, book a hypnosis appointment Now!


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Separate The Bad Habit From The Intention

Is your bad habit just pure bad?

What if it had a lot of good in it too?



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Most of us don’t challenge the way we think because we generally agree it’s just the way we are which is a social protection mechanism and a bad habit. I bet you have heard something like this many times “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks” or ” a leopard doesn’t change its spots”


This really is a big fat lie that keeps us all safe and comfortable huddled together agreeing with each other in comfortable bliss and safety but have you ever wondered why we stay stuck with a bad habit?


This is really common so please just consider this with an open mind. A major premise of NLPNeuro Linguistic Programming is that the sub-conscious mind will never do anything to harm the person and everything it does is for a positive reason.


Sometimes I talk about it in this way to help people consider it differently – I often ask smokers what do you get out of smoking and most times they say “absolutely nothing”. Point to note is smoking is the bad habit.


Then I ask this “what’s the positive intention or positive purpose of smoking?” which sometimes can take a bit of teasing out of the person and it usually includes the following –


“I get to leave the office for a quick fag” “I get to relax after a long day” “it stops me killing the kids” “It helps me feel good” so the positive purposes or intentions of the bad habit are Comfort, relaxation, safety and freedom to which the light bulb comes on and they then realise they smoke for very good reasons. So no more denial about getting absolutely nothing out of smoking.


This is a turn around moment in the conversation realising there are positives in a bad habit. But more than that is the sense that it’s not all bad so a person can see that beating them self up doesn’t help them progress to reconsider a bad habit as something else entirely.


So without considering this turn around this is why we can stay stuck with a bad habit because of a rigid belief of the event that created it and those circumstances.


So the point here is that by loosening up the grip on the belief and seeing the story about the bad habit in a different way can really help you start to make changes.


What would happen if you took some time to think about the positive intentions of decisions and beliefs you formed from past events rather than just accepting them as rigid stuck problems? I mean really consider why you did things and find the positive rather than the actual past event that happened only which keeps you stuck.


Deliberately look for the positive of the things you thought of as problems to redefine your relationship to past events and give yourself a different way to think about habits.


You never know you might give yourself a bit of a break and see new possibilities and choices for progress and change because people really do change when they find a way to look at things from a new perspective that consistently works.


It’s amazing what happens when you change your relationship and story with a past event and how that can help you create new possibilities. It might even make you smile when you see a positive in there and that in itself is all it takes to start the process.


Please contact me HERE about a free 2-hour coaching session Now to consider new and better ways to change your future rather than just letting it happen.


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Are you fed up with the same old story?

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What’s your story then?


Are you getting stale or bored because of the same old story your trapped inside? Need to say things out loud to make you feel alive in your workplace or at home? Well read on and tell me what you think after!


Life coaches are here to serve you and not to please you and that may sound provocative but is completely the truth and that’s the way it needs to be to shake people out of their stories. Your situation depends on you being able to honestly dig down into that story and situation skillfully to see what’s happening and how it affects you for good or for bad.


Yes it is uncomfortable having to go into the nuts and bolts of your life or the story you created but more and more high achievers are doing that. And with professional objective strangers like me to help them cut through the crap of their story about their life.


The closest people in our lives are not objective enough to help us as they are far too close to our stories and form part of the narrative. They also can’t tell you what you need to hear because they have a relationship with you and are part of the cast.


Most offer well-meaning advice that you might up ending up resenting or dismissing all because they were never your ideas and that can be painful to go through and even exhausting. Why can it be painful or exhausting? Well have you ever went on someones advice and eventually binned it off because in the end you realised it wasnt your idea? Are you getting the point now?


A skilled coach will bring out your own ideas, your greatness, your problem-solving abilities, your resourcefulness and get you to dig deep into your beliefs and habits for meaning. When you do this your story starts to loosen and can begin to change.


More often than not we keep going with behaviours, habits and routines that need to be discussed with someone that can see what’s going on from an objective level who can see the process and content from a different perspective and invite you to consider changes.


Most people can’t see the woods from the trees because they are so invested into their story that it is just too blurred and that’s where a coach adds value. A skilful caring coach will insist on getting into clarity and meaning of what’s happening for you and at times this is very uncomfortable.


Why can it be so uncomfortable? Well people pussy foot around you normally and don’t tell you how it is for loads of reasons like they don’t want to offend you or lose your affection. So having objectivity and not being involved in your life means that a coach must ask questions that encourage you to flesh out deeper meaning and often shock you with their questions or the answers you find.


Being asked skilful interesting questions can make you uncomfortable and stretch your understanding and that’s where the magic happens. Once we are awoken by seeing how we do things, what is there and really understanding what we want in a positive sense then a whole new map of your world or story can begin. This is the beauty of being served and not pleased because this is what friends do and coaches don’t.


Your direction, values and beliefs are the batteries for your success and can’t be installed by a coach! Coaching is a dance where the coach sometimes leads but the content and new direction is all pulled from within you by asking interesting questions that take you much deeper.


Are you fed up being pleased by well-meaning people and need to challenge yourself, your reality or your situation? What would it be like if you had powerful insights on a regular basis and changed that story for ever?


“Mark has that rare skill of being able to listen and to hear the message that is not being said directly. I found his ability to prompt me to consider a range of things that have either held me back, or driven me to pursue irrelevant issues extremely helpful.

I would heartily recommend his services in this field. His background and his “people skills” give him the ability to home in on the areas a person needs to focus upon. I’m very grateful to him for the insight he has given me.”

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If you want to experience a complimentary 2-hour deep coaching session face to face or over the internet then please click HERE now where we can have a powerful conversation together and start changing that story.


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Is Change Making You Stuck Or Getting You Moving?

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Confidence what does that actually mean?


Have you ever noticed we can get seriously stuck on a single word like confidence and it’s meaning or get straight into action by the meaning confidence? If this has ever been your experience it’s very common trust me so your not alone.


Our personal leadership and self-talk (self-talk is only thinking) can a bit muddled by the way we talk to ourself and the sentences we make in our heads about what’s happening in our lives.


Many people have a tendency to have a want for confidence, love, Happiness, success or other things in life and can get bogged down or stuck by the vagueness of single word.


Well here is the problem and in my opinion its ok to call them problems but that’s just me – Changes, happiness, confidence, love or success aren’t real things in the sense you could own or have instantly. So sometimes we use vague terms which can get us bogged down and stuck by thinking things are just too big.


I often serve people that tell me they want confidence and that’s a great place to start to help someone realise how they think and construct their story by the way they frame their thoughts. And let’s face it thoughts are just self-talk in your head right?


Once people get really specific about things like changes and what these actually mean in straightforward terms things can change. For instance asking yourself “what do I see myself doing when I have changed, what do I want to do when I have changed and why do I want to change then the plan becomes a lot clearer. Thus change becomes more achievable and not just a single word of 6 letters.


Change work is a process and not a thing and when we identify that we can create direction towards a defined outcome like confidence and actions to move ahead with. Without the process then words can stop your progress.


Once we start to see in what part of a person’s life the changes are needed then we can look to see what’s missing, what’s not required, what alternative things may be needed then we can get into action and down to the process of change.


So pinpointing how we improve in a certain area by then creating an action plan for a process of change can create the change othat has been missing and move us into action by actually starting the changes towards confidence.


So it’s interesting to consider when you have an area to improve to first spot fuzzy and vague words like passion, energy or even love to then get really specific about what this means to start to the change process and become really confident at it.


Please contact me for a complimentary 2-hour deep coaching session by clicking HERE and the session can be done over Skype, Facetime, Zoom or in person so distance is not an issue.


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    Mark is an awesome coach and I really value the work he’s done with me. He has an incisive intuition and approach that gets to the heart of the matter quickly and helps you see things in a new way that removes blocks and gets you motoring in the right direction for you.
    Mark really embodies the qualities of a great coach – he’s smart, honest and totally focused on you as his client.
    Alison O’Leary – London 2016


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Are you leading by agreements or failing because of expectations?

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  • Harmony or accordance in opinion or feeling:
  • A negotiated and typically legally binding arrangement between parties as to a course of action:


I recently listened to an amazing audio by Steve Chandler outlining how we fail regularly because of what we expect from people and our unclear needs from them because we lack agreements.


I am going to make an assumption here that everyone wants some form of success in their lives right? Well the thing is that if you are leading people or leading yourself to success then expectations will cause you major and regular problems if you are not careful.


Expectations create fuzzy blurred and open-ended situations and outcomes. And they just set people up for trouble and arguments about what one person thought was being asked of by another person and where the other person believed it was the other way.


Expectations often create conflict, doubt and uncertainty if they are not nipped in the bud at an early stage. Expectations lead to hassles, missed deadlines, non-productivity and the list can go on and on I’m sure you would agree.


So people that lead well and clearly outline what they actually want from the organisation, people, products and the process through their agreements. They then set out how everyone works together in a plan because of their vision set out through that agreement.


Agreements can create clarity, creativity, vision and boundaries which actually draw out leaders throughout organisations. This is because everyone knows where they stand and how they can contribute to the outcome together by actually being all included in the creation of the agreement.


Something to keep in mind about agreements is they can be renegotiated, changed and adapted to fit in with your over all plan. This means when an agreement doesn’t work or is not as relevant anymore progress can be made and also people can be heard when an agreement doesn’t work so moral can remain high because of working together.


Steve Chandler says in the audio “Human beings don’t like breaking agreements but won’t live up to your expectations” so knowing that and when you think of how many times you were let down by your expectations of others then agreements make 100% sense for success right?


It could also be argued that:

EXPECTATION = Lack of leadership

AGREEMENTS = Leadership


So it could be a good idea to look at your life and spot where it’s not working and see what’s missing or needed there to avoid needless failures and confusion.


I offer a 2-hour complimentary deep coaching session and if you think this would serve you in an area of your life please click CONTACT and message me now.


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What’s Important To you?

What’s Important To You – Life Coaching Editorial Series


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Often when I am at events I get asked “what do you do?” and I used to say I’m an executive coach and plenty of times it looked quite an underwhelming answer for the person that asked the question.


Now I answer something like this “I help people break out of their limiting stories they call their lives” and I usually follow on with something like “If you think about it we all go round in a story about our lives and parts of it don’t work all that well do they?”


Then I explain that I am an executive coach just to clarify the story of what I just said. I noticed some time back when I became fascinated by “deep or transformational” coaching that many coaches want to get right into the HOW of what was going on or needed.


I then started to realise that we go round in behaviour habits or patterns that often don’t work and we stick with them and look for an action or How to break the pattern by getting into doing something which doesn’t solve the issue or habit.


People can have a very powerful WHY that draws them forward but get tired or burned out by the HOW habit of action that often doesn’t work because of the WHAT that may be missing or even not required because they haven’t went deep enough into their story on what’s been going on in this habit.


To give you a very personal insight of how I have worked on this WHAT that was missing for me was around the issue of “self-love” which I worked on with my own coach at a very deep personal level. I had for years been doing all sorts of things and activities that I thought would make me whole and getting burned out and fed up.


For me by being challenged about my WHY and by being guided deeper it became apparent that WHAT I thought was missing was actually inside of me all the time and couldn’t be gained by the constant exhausting searching and HOW actions and even bad habits.


So WHAT I was searching for was always inside and couldn’t be gained, bought or obtained external to me because it had always been inside of me but I was just blind to its existence.

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WHAT do you want and WHY do you need it is a very powerful question to ask yourself  to get right into HOW you achieve that vision or goal.


Believe me the HOW is crucially important when clarity has been brought into play by getting off the surface and into quality interesting questions at a much deeper coaching  level.

Please contact me HERE to discuss a complimentary 2-hour deep coaching session today.

So what’s really important to you now?


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Your Language Defines Your Direction

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Is Your Thinking Style Creating You Confidence Or Not?


Have you ever noticed how people with a goal or purpose know where they are going and talk with confidence in conversation and in a different way to those who are blocked, stuck or just bouncing all over the place? Your language defines your direction, motivation, focus and energy and I will explain.


The way you talk to yourself defines your direction, motivation, focus and energy and I will explain by explaining some of the things I encounter regularly. Common things I hear are “I want confidence” “I want to be happy” “I don’t want to feel like this” “I don’t want to be unhappy anymore”


Statements like that are obscure and non-specific where people often get stuck in their internal dialogue with their thinking and get bogged down in their heads. But let’s face it talking to yourself is normal and it’s called thinking! It’s the way you talk to yourself that really counts and the real trick is to recognise crappy internal thinking and change that chat quickly.


What does confidence actually mean? What does Happiness really mean? These terms are intangible as you couldn’t put happiness in a wheel barrow or confidence in a cardboard box and post it could you?


So really these thoughts need to be redefined and fleshed out into specifics so real life can be brought out and expressed firstly. Then direction can be identified and action and activity decided on to create that direction.


When I want to help someone get outside of these vague thinking habits I ask them to explain what confidence looks like, feels like and sounds like in detail. And that’s when the changes of bogged down thinking begin to change into movement.


I would also ask where are you when you have confidence, who are you with, what are you doing, what does confidence get you specifically, what does it not get you. This is so someone is emotionally attached to what they want and can feel that pull towards their construction of confidence strongly.


So my main point here is if you feel stuck in a bubble, on a merry go round or just completely blocked ask yourself “What do I really want?”.  Then get very specific with your honesty and self-questioning by using the questions above to define your true direction for you.


If you would like a “Complimentary 2 hour Deep Coaching experience” please contact me today by clicking HERE now!



Susana Pais life confidence coaching image Paisley30 minutes into our initial conversation and it became clear as water what the path I want to focus on was, versus non-value adding distractions.

In a short, but challenging, straight to the point and above all effective conversation, the areas needing focus and consequently course of action to be taken, became easier to define. 

It´s all about achieving personal fulfilment and Mark is a Master at deconstructing what we already know in our minds and heart, but can´t seeSusana Pais – London – June 2016


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Life coaching for confidence

Could you improve your confidence and performance like this?


Recently I was at a very interesting event hosted by the Renfrewshire Chamber Of Commerce called “Pitch And Roll”

Life coaching for confidence at Renfrewshire Chamber of Commerce in Paisley


As I had never really done or really been interested in doing a 2-minute elevator pitch it made me think about it before going and how to be successful. The truth was I was pretty daunted by it if I am honest and real with you.




So I sat down and thought about it from different angles in my head.

1. How should I do it?

2. How should I do it differently to other people and be interesting, authentic and remarkable?

3. How should I make it unique and relevant to all the people at the event?


Interestingly rather than being overly analytical I had a sense of going with my intuition and listened to my heart rather than my ego.

That might sound a bit risky and a bit unorthodox but a lvoice inside was saying just trust your instinct. I think on looking back it was really important to tap into my emotional side to drive me rather than being way too intellectual.


So trusting myself I decided to do a few things –Life coaching for confdence at Renfrewshire Chamber of Commerce in Paisley

  1. I wrote some notes on a small card and practiced it about 5 – 6 times using a timer on my iPhone that morning whilst adding things and adjusting the delivery.
  2. I decided to have a great opening line (or so I thought to grab the audience) “I’m just a guy that asks interesting questions” was what I decided on.
  3. I managed my performance nerves by walking to the front of the room in the longest route I could take without making it look weird and also had a way of talking to myself and adjusting my body posture and physiology as I walked there (I believe nerves are crucial for peak performance).
  4. I maintained eye contact with the audience, intentionally spoke clearly with volume and used my body language in a persuasive manner that was engaging. I learned a long time ago to slowly but continuously keep eye contact with a group by circling clockwise which keeps the group engaged.
  5. I made sure my story was interesting, authentic and relevant to the people in the room.


So what were my take aways from the event for me?


Well it’s really interesting how much you can actually say in 2 minutes that captures an audiences attention without being “salesy” and still engaging I learned.


What’s the real learning for me here?


Confidence only comes out of taking action in certain areas of your life and not just talking about it! and that’s how you gain confidence by doing and not just talking about it.


Will you Choose progress or stay within an outdated story or even consider creating a new one with my help?

I work on confidence a lot with people and if there is an area of your life you would like to work on why not consider a free 2 hour deep coaching session with me to see what you can build on for you and you alone!


Message me by clicking HERE today to arrange as free session.

Thanks for reading more of my editorials and please feel free to comment or contact me if there is any part of your life you need some work with.


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